CANCERVERSARY NUMBER FOUR

Happy Saturday everyone and Happy Fourth Cancerversary to me! I know I usually don’t post on the weekend, but my anniversary is today, and I am so happy to have the opportunity to share it with you all! I know I have a lot of new subscribers, so I want to share with you a little bit of my story (if you already know it and don’t want to read, have a great weekend!).
I was diagnosed with breast cancer from a routine mammogram, although the tumor was never seen or felt. The radiologist found some calcifications that looked funny and suggested a biopsy. The biopsy was performed on June 13, 2013, and on July 1, I was having a double mastectomy. I consider this day my cancerversary because this was the day my cancer was removed from my body. I was given the option of having a lumpectomy, but chose the mastectomy and made the right decision, because after the pathology was performed, I learned that I had a very aggressive form of breast cancer called Triple Negative.
It is very important for me to use this blog as a platform to urge and beg you all to make sure that you check yourselves and get your mammograms. I also want to encourage you to speak with your daughter’s, daughter-laws, granddaughters, nieces, or any young women close to you. The kind of cancer I had does not discriminate in age. Actually, I was on the older side to be diagnosed with it. It seems to affect women as young as in their late 20’s. It is a nasty cancer that has very quick proliferation rates. My tumor was small, but it was growing at a rate of 89%.
If I had to tell anyone diagnosed with this horrible disease what to do, I would plead with them to use the most aggressive treatments you can. Most breast cancers are hormonally fed, and after treatment, those women (and men) are given tamoxifen to keep the cells from coming back. Triple Negative is not hormonal and we, that are diagnosed with it, do not get the luxury of taking anything. That is why I say to do everything; surgery, chemo, and if needed, radiation.
I know I have said this before, that I don’t want this to be a “breast cancer” blog. I believe I am healed by the Grace of God, and I feel it is why I am here. I have personally known a friend that passed away from this particular cancer. I read about how awful it is and that if it comes back, it’s usually in the brain or lungs. I have had people refer to it as “the terrible kind,” and others gasp if they know about it. I get to live with these thoughts in the back of my head every day, but that’s where they stay, in the very back!
I know my blog is mostly about fashion, beauty, and things that are light-hearted and fun. It’s not a deep thought provoking blog and, therefore, I sometimes want to call it quits because it’s time-consuming and a lot of work for a bunch of fluff. But…it’s this day and the month of October that keeps me continuing. If I can help one person change the course of their life by getting to a doctor, then this is all worth it!
Today, I celebrate my new “birthday.” God has healed me, and I am so blessed and grateful that I am on number four. I would not change anything about the last four years. Cancer has taught me a lot, and life is so precious. Thank you all for reading this and for supporting me on this blog. Please schedule your mammograms, you have much to live for!
Have a Happy Weekend! xx
Photos: Mary Summers Hafner
Hula Print Shirt // Citizens of Humanity Jeans // Marc Fisher Wedges // Ray-Bans

July 1, 2017 @ 7:28 am
Cathy, this is the first I’m learning of your story! HAPPY CANCERVERSARY! One of my dearest friends was diagnosed with Triple Negative Breast Cancer when she was 29. It was of course very aggressive, and about 5 years ago we thought we were going to lose her. BUT NOW SHE’S 38 and doing well!!!!!!! Her story is a miracle! Thank you, God! So much love to you, and good for you for sharing your story!
July 1, 2017 @ 8:15 am
Congratulations and thank you for sharing your story. It is my wish for
You that you stay healthy and strong and continue to inspire us all!
Thank you for writing your blog, I almost feel like I know you!
Have a fun holiday weekend!…..you look beautiful!
Rebecca
July 1, 2017 @ 8:25 am
keep on being strong and fierce, Cathy! You are the real deal and the world is a better place with you in it! May you be blessed with many more years of July 1sts!
Thanks for all you do for others.
July 1, 2017 @ 9:01 am
Cathy, congratulations to you! And thank you for reminding us all about mammograms.
July 1, 2017 @ 9:29 am
Congratulations Cathy! I love everything about your blog – including the fluff ! Having many breast cancerversaries in our family – and one prostate cancerversary – I think It’s wonderful for you to help educate your readers! Enjoy the day!
July 1, 2017 @ 9:31 am
Congratulations! I will schedule a mammogram Monday! Love your attitude.
July 1, 2017 @ 9:54 am
I am a new subscriber .,, and have very much enjoyed your well spoken, visually appealing “fluff”! But, today I understand and appreciate you all the more. Thank you for using your platform to inform us all. Happy #4!
God is good!
Barb
July 1, 2017 @ 10:15 am
My breast cancerversary is coming up in August. It was 2004. I won’t tell you my story now, but it has the hand of God written all over it. I have no doubt I am here by His Grace and the prayers of many. Like you, I’m grateful beyond all reason. Bless you, sweet Cathy! xoxox, Brenda
July 1, 2017 @ 10:26 am
Thank you for the post, you’re a great inspiration. I just scheduled my (slightly overdue) mammogram yesterday. I won’t let that appointment slip by me again.
July 1, 2017 @ 10:35 am
thanks for sharing your story. I too had calcifications, but praise God, so far no cancer. I love to read your posts, and realize that there is something deeper with you. So please keep on posting the fun fluff too! God Bless you!
July 1, 2017 @ 10:44 am
Congratulations on your cancer free anniversary. I am a one year survivor, had my lumpectomy June 2016. Each day is a blessing. I really enjoy your blog. Thanks for sharing your cancer journey.
July 1, 2017 @ 12:02 pm
What a blessing to read your story and to know God healed you! I lost my best friend 3 years ago to that same breast cancer. So happy to know you beat it? I just recently found your blog and enjoy reading it. I really like fashion and keeping up with what’s new.
July 1, 2017 @ 12:06 pm
Dear Cathy,
Dear Cathy,
I am so grateful I came across your blog! You are such an inspiration to me …as a mother of 3 and soon to be grandmother of 4 !
Sometimes life gets tough because I am still caring for my elderly parents along with my work and family and I get in a RUT.
Reading your blogs, knowing your story, seeing you enthusiasm and beauty is SO uplifting.
Thank you, thank you for your incredible spirit. Wish you lived next door!
July 1, 2017 @ 12:18 pm
Your post today is especially timely for me because I’m scheduled for a single mastectomy on 7/10 due to a diagnosis of DCIS back in April. Calcifications were found on this year’s mammogram that had not been present on the one from last year and I opted for a biopsy rather than “a wait and see” follow up mammo in 6 months. Even though I’m considered Stage 0, it is high grade and hormone negative so I’ve decided to minimize the risks for recurrance or advancement to an invasive stage by taking an aggressive approach. The time lag between diagnosis and surgery is mostly due to scheduling conflicts but it’s giving me time to for second thoughts which is where your post has been so helpful. Congratulations on another year of living well and I hope that there are many more for you in the future.
Rena
http://www.finewhateverblog.com
July 1, 2017 @ 2:36 pm
I wish you continued health and happiness. Congrats on 4 years and may there be many, many, MANY more!
July 1, 2017 @ 2:57 pm
Happy day! Thanks for all the encouraging and inspiring words you write. You raise up all your fans! Happy happy day!
July 1, 2017 @ 5:40 pm
Congratulations, Cathy, and happy happy happy happy Fourth Anniversary. Continued great health to you!!!! ~ Janis
P.S. You look so cute all in pink!
July 1, 2017 @ 5:47 pm
Congratulations Cathy and many many more cancerversaries ahead!
July 1, 2017 @ 10:32 pm
Congratulations! I had my surgery yesterday yesterday to remove calcifications. Everyone should get their mammo done. It saves lives!
July 2, 2017 @ 5:33 am
Thanks for sharing your story and bless your heart Cathy. I have been going for mammograms faithfully every year and by the grace of God have had not one issue. As for the fluff, these days we all need some. I was just reminded that as we celebrate the 4th of July, we are all blessed that we live in a country where we have the rights and privileges to read and publish fluff and anything else we want to! Happy 4th to you and everyone??!
July 2, 2017 @ 8:48 am
Cathy, this was wonderful. I am pretty sure my mother had triple neg. breast cancer. Forty years ago that wasn’t a concept so she kept having surgeries here and there, no chemo or radiation until 10 years later…too late.thanks for always being so candid.?
July 2, 2017 @ 1:18 pm
Congratulations! So happy for you! Thank you for sharing!
July 2, 2017 @ 8:31 pm
Wish you always stay healthy and have many useful articles on the blog
Love you,xxx
Anna
July 3, 2017 @ 10:50 am
Hi, Anna! Thank you so much! xoxo
July 3, 2017 @ 10:51 am
Thank you, Lisa! xx
July 3, 2017 @ 3:15 pm
Congratulations, Cathy! So love your kindness and candor in the face of the big C. Have been putting off my mammo. Not a day longer. Stay well and keep sharing your beautiful self and much-needed fluff with all of us!
xoxomp
July 4, 2017 @ 9:05 am
Congrats Cathy! I never mind hearing about your journey because it is a reminder of what is important in this world. Here’s hoping for many more cancerversaries for you and all the survivors out there! I also love your “fluff”, especially the Friday ones with the other gals!
July 5, 2017 @ 2:29 am
So thankful that you are in this world?
July 5, 2017 @ 8:38 am
I appreciate your post today & am so happy that you are here to celebrate this anniversary.
Just a thought….when you say you were “healed by God”, does that mean that people who were not healed, who have died from this cancer, were *not* chosen by God to be healed? Do you believe in just….bad luck?
Not trying to be argumentative and I too, believe in God. But I lost my beloved Mother-in-Law to breast cancer at 59 years old, and I often wonder …..
July 5, 2017 @ 8:48 am
Hi, Carol-Anne! Hope you had a great 4th of July! Thank you for your kind words. I believe that I was healed by God, yes. I was prayed over at a church and at that moment, I chose to believe that I was. I am a big believer in only putting out the positive words out of my mouth. This is just my personal belief. I don’t know why bad things happen to good people. I lost one of my good friends to the same kind of breast cancer that I had. I don’t know why I was spared and she wasn’t. What I do believe, is that because I am here, I am giving the glory to God for the healing. Hope that makes sense. I am so sorry about your mother-in-law. This whole cancer thing sucks!!! Thank you for commenting! xx
July 5, 2017 @ 8:48 am
Thank you, sweet girl! Love you!!!!
July 5, 2017 @ 8:49 am
Thank you so much, Joanne! Your words are so sweet and I appreciate them so much! xx
July 5, 2017 @ 8:56 am
Hi, Mary-Paula! Thank you so much for commenting on this post. I hope that I can help other women in reminding them to check themselves. I so appreciate your sweet words! xx
July 8, 2017 @ 11:53 pm
Congratulations, Cathy, on your #4 cancerversary! I, too, had breast cancer and chose double mastectomy. That was seven years ago. I have never regretted my choice- a friend of mine chose less invasive treatment and then had cancer recurrence. I am also so grateful to God and his grace towards me in sparing my life. My cancer, like yours, was found on mammogram. I enjoy your blog and thank you for it. With so many heavy things going on in the world, sometimes it is such a breath of fresh air to read about fashion and style and friendships between women. Keep up the good work!
July 14, 2017 @ 8:40 am
Thank you for sharing your story and reminding all of us of the importance of routine mammograms!
You are such an inspiration to me Cathy!
XO Elizabeth
August 30, 2017 @ 7:30 pm
Hi Cathy! Congratulations on your four year anniversary as a cancer survivor/warrior! I have recently been diagnosed with TNBC. I start my chemo tomorrow. I have enjoyed reading about your journey on your blog. You are very inspirational! If you have time to share any additional information about treatment, mental and physical fortitude, where you found encouragement, etc. it would be greatly appreciated. Plus, any tips you might have on wigs, scarves, makeup and loungewear would help too. Thank you, in advance, for your response! Take care! XO
September 6, 2017 @ 8:03 am
Hi, Lauren! I am so sorry that I am late in answering your comment. I have been out of the country on vacation with my family. Thank you for your congratulations to me. It is a huge deal, as you will come to know. I am so sorry that you have had to join this club. As bad as it is, I have met the best people through it. I hope you are not having many side effects from the chemo. I would love more than anything to help you in any way I can. I am going to send you my phone number through your email and we can talk, as I really want to know more about your story and diagnosis. Hang in there and you will be on the other side before you know it! Lots of love!!!!